There are many times in the Psalms we are told to be thankful (Psalm 30:4; 50:14; 92:1; 95:2; 100:4; 105:1; 136:6; etc.). Paul tells us in 1 Thessalonians that thanksgiving is a part of God’s will for each one of us.
Secular studies have shown that those who are more grateful also have a more positive outlook on life.
From a Harvard Medical School article they say:
In positive psychology research, gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness . Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships. (1)
One simple way to overcome negativity is to become more thankful. When you are emotionally down it may be hard to feel thankful.
But if you will look at thankfulness as a command and try to be thankful because God tells you to be thankful, it may make it easier to pull out of the mood you are in.
I Thessalonians 5:18 “In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.”
2. Positive Attitude
The Bible says that David encouraged himself in the Lord (1 Samuel 30:6). Lest you think that David had so many wonderful things going on in his life, realize this verse also says that at the time David’s military men were rising up in mutiny to stone him.
David had led the army to war. While they were away from home their city was burned to the ground and all their women and children were taken prisoners. Things were not going well in David’s life.
David put on a positive attitude and looked to the one source of help he knew he could trust—God. In the next few verses David prayed and looked to God for direction. Then he obeyed what the Lord had said.
Like David, you too can encourage yourself to do what is right. David encouraged himself to pray. He encouraged himself to rise up and do what he knew was right to do.
You can have a positive attitude even when things are not going your way in life. Negative people are negative because they choose to be. Positive people are positive because they choose to be. What is your choice in your situation?
Undoubtedly you’ve heard the illustration of the two shoe salesmen who went to a primitive tribe where no one wore shoes.
One salesman looked at the situation in disgust and wrote back to the home office that he would never be able to do well among the primitive tribe because no one wore shoes.
The other salesman wrote back excited with all the possibilities because no one there had any shoes yet.
Your choice, like David’s, will affect your outlook. You can choose to be negative, or choose to be positive.
1 Samuel 30:6 “And David was greatly distressed; for the people spake of stoning him, because the soul of all the people was grieved, every man for his sons and for his daughters: but David encouraged himself in the LORD his God.”
3. Remember Action Influences Thinking
One of my favorite verses I like to use when teaching people a new skill is Proverbs 16:3 which says that we should commit our actions to the Lord and then our thinking will follow.
I remember when I first started running for exercise I engaged in online conversations about how many miles a week a person had to run before he could call himself a runner.
A few weeks later it seemed like a silly question. If you run, you are a runner. It took some time for my mind to accept that doing the activity made me a participant of that activity.
The same can be true with trying to have a more positive outlook on life. If you will act in a positive way, you will begin to have a more positive attitude.
However, if you spiral into negative thinking and negative actions, then you can only expect that negative thinking will continue.
Proverbs 16:3 “Commit thy works unto the LORD, and thy thoughts shall be established.”
4. Don’t be a Victim
Not being a victim goes hand in hand with everything mentioned before. If you will be thankful, encourage yourself and do what is right, then you can overcome the thoughts of being a victim.
Let’s take a brief look at two men in the Bible, father and son, name Jacob and Joseph, you will see two very different attitudes. Jacob considered himself a victim. Joseph did not.
Jacob said at the end of his long life (147 years), that his years were “few and evil” (Genesis 47:9). If you know the story, you know that Jacob was to blame for just about everything that happened to him. His own wrong choices put him in every bad situation he was in. He was a victim to his own stupidity, and he lived like a victim.
On the other hand, his son Joseph, when he was about only about 40 years old and had suffered many injustices said that everything was great. He said God was good and God had a plan (Genesis 45:5-8).
Joseph had even more reason to be negative than Jacob. Everything bad that happened in his life—and there was a whole lot of it—was caused by others. He really was a victim, but never allowed that to control his thinking.
Interestingly, many of Joseph’s problems started because of Jacob’s bad choices . Joseph suffered because of Jacob’s attitude of being a victim.
Genesis 45:8 “So now it was not you that sent me hither, but God: and he hath made me a father to Pharaoh, and lord of all his house, and a ruler throughout all the land of Egypt.”